I have been doing a lot of writing lately – obviously not on this blog, but I promise, there is a lot of writing going on.  As I was gathering and organizing some of my old blog posts, I came across something I did for one of my college classes last year and I HAD to post something here for y’all.

A few years back, Zak and I were preparing to go on a trip – and I tend to get very emotional about my children before I travel without them.  My mind will race and I think about all they will go through if something were to happen to one (or both!) of us.  What will they be left with?

When I ask that question, I don’t mean money or possessions, although I do believe that is crucial.  Like Dave Ramsey says, “It’s selfish not to have a will for your loved ones.”

When I ask “What will they be left with?” I mean, what will they remember about us?  How did we make them feel?  Did they know how very much they were loved?  Will they go through life knowing that someone believed that they could do amazing things?

And, because I am a writer, you know what I did when those thoughts took over brain?  That’s right, I wrote each of them a letter.  I didn’t just say “I love you so much and I will miss you while we are gone.”  No.  I got specific…

I told them that they have made my life exceptional – that because of them, I am a better person.  I told them that they can do amazing things in their lifetime – that they have more potential and talent in their little finger than I could have ever dreamed to have for myself…

I told them that they are beautiful, but that the kindness and compassion they have for others will be where their real beauty shines.


(The picture is a real letter – but not to my children.)

I told them to continue relying on God throughout their lives.  To pray.  To ask for forgiveness and to offer grace and forgiveness to others.

These are just some of the things I want my children to remember during their journey on this earth.  They may read these things in books or hear them in a generalized way on a TV show, but I needed them to hear it from me.

So, the question for all of us becomes this… What are we leaving our loved ones with when its our time to go?  Will they know how we felt about them?  Have we written them down so that they can be a life-long reminder – a treasure they keep close to their hearts for as long as they live?

How will our words change them?  What about our LACK of words?

Words are powerful.  Not only do we need to use them wisely, but we need to USE THEM.

~ Roxanne


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