I recently read a blog that frankly just pissed me off… it was written by a woman who, in my opinion, is just very misguided and doesn’t have enough experience in real life issues to even attempt writing about having a family and what it means.
(I really hate to even put the link on this post, but here it is so that you will fully understand where I am coming from http://thoughtcatalog.com/amy-glass/2014/01/i-look-down-on-young-women-with-husbands-and-kids-and-im-not-sorry/)
I will start by saying this: I am a woman who has big aspirations. I have the desire to accomplish great things in my life – some of you know what a few of those things are. I have had the experience of working outside the home and being a “stay-at-home-mom”, so I have seen and can understand both sides of the coin. I am a 37 year old wife and mom to four daughters who keep me BUSY – and in the future, they will keep me even busier! I am blessed that my husband has a job that gives me the ability to stay home at this point in our lives. If he didn’t, I would not be able to do all the things I want to do with my GREATEST accomplishments – my children.
This war between working moms and stay-at-home moms is something we should not be fighting. Period. Both sides are making compromises and some will have regrets or doubts through the years – it’s inevitable. I love not working outside the home right now. I am able to be with my kids whenever they need me – If they are sick, I am there – If they have a party at school that I can help with, I am there – If they need help with a school project, I am the one helping them. If they need to be taken to the orthodontist, a game, whatever, I can do it. I will never regret that.
On the other hand, I have the pull to do something great outside of my family. I understand wanting the accomplishments and the accolades – I really do. I have 5K and half marathon race medals hanging on my dresser mirror that reflect some of that. I would love to go back to school someday. I would love to write a book. I want to travel more. There are a lot of things I want to do! What I have learned through the years, however, is that none of those things matter more to me than making a good life for and with my family. Guess what?!? My family will be my greatest legacy – whether I am working at home or somewhere else. No amount of medals, degrees, or accolades can take place of the memories made with the people I love most.
Ms. Glass obviously knows nothing about being a wife and mom and the sacrifices it entails. She knows nothing about the unconditional love a child brings into your life or the sacrificial love between a man and wife. I hope she learns a little something about the true meaning of family before she has one of her own.