Girl, I am with you.
Is it not tiring? Perfection, that is. I believe in the past few years, with the emergence of sites like Pinterest and its “look what I did/can do” condescending tone, we women have begun to feel more and more…inadequate.
Oh yes, we’ve tried the recipe…and the cute little craft…and the amazing restored furniture – all ginormous fails. It’s enough to drive a woman to her crying room (a little like a “war room,” but it’s filled with your kids’ leftover Halloween candy and the tears of past failures.)
(Don’t you worry, I’ll still be pinning things I could never make later today.)
And what is with the altered selfies? Can we not just be REAL anymore? I don’t want people to see a filtered Instagram picture of me and then see me in REAL life and wonder who the heck I am! Why can’t we be happy just being who we are?
Perfection. It doesn’t exist. But more importantly, why do we think it should?
I’m going to say it… I am in no way compelled to be perfect – with anything. And yes, there is a great reason why.
No one would be able to relate to me. I would have no friends. (If I did, I would probably wonder why their eyes rolled out of their heads every time I was around.) I would not be able to go to Friday breakfasts with the other women my age and say “Girl, just wait ’til you hear this!” No one would feel comfortable telling me the things they found growing in their children’s backpack or about the dirty clothes they found hidden in the most unusual places.
We need to stop not only trying to BE perfect, but we also need to stop trying to come across as having it all together, because we don’t. We are all human – and humans screw up – all the time. Women, we need to start embracing our imperfections and laugh (loudly) about them! Share your story with a friend – be honest. Transparent. That’s what we all want and NEED to hear!
Want a new friend? Tell another woman that you can’t cook to save your family’s life or that you need to buy a new house for your every-growing laundry pile – or that you’re just exhausted and need to hear that someone else is, too. Tell her that your marriage is just hard this week or that your kids are being…well, kids. We want to hear that someone else is THERE! RIGHT THERE! “I’m with ya!” And, if you’re not there now, you sure have been!
When we are really honest and we let our guards down and remember all the times we just haven’t gotten it right – that’s when life gets real. And humorous. And we realize we aren’t alone. And it is….relieving.
Women – you are not alone! Ever! Someone else is feeling that exact thing you’re feeling. Surround yourself with other women who are tired of trying to be perfect – who are living this very real, human life – and who want to share with you how funny it can be.