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Friday nights aren’t what they used to be


This evening I sit in my living room watching The Weather Channel and I realize that it’s Friday night and I’m siting in my living room watching The Weather Channel.  I’m not upset about my choice of activity, but it certainly gets me thinking.

(In my defense, Hurricane Harvey has just become a category 4 storm and it’s Texas Coast landfall is “imminent,” and I do the same thing in the peak of tornado season.)

Growing up, I remember LOVING the weekends.  When I was in my tweens and early teens, it was a time for pizza parties and sleepovers – as I got older, weekends were for “dragging Main” and secret parties in the country.  And because I am from a small Texas town, football took up a lot of our Friday nights – and I loved every minute of it.

As I got older and moved away to “college” (if you’ve read some of my past blogs, you know why I use those quotation marks), Friday nights were date nights.  For years, Fridays were full of excitement and fun!

Now I’m a little older…  and our Fridays look a little different.

Oh, don’t get me wrong!  Fridays are still totally exciting!  I look forward to Friday ALL. WEEK. LONG.

Here’s an example of a fun-filled Friday evening at the Felts household… I order pizza because, well, pizza.  After we eat, the girls start Descendents 2 for 768th time, the hubby and I settle in on the couch to watch the latest riveting episode of Dateline (in which the spouse most likely did it), and I try my hardest to keep my eyes open to make sure justice was served.  Instead, I wake up and realize Jimmy Fallon is already mid-monologue, hubby is asleep next to me, and our youngest has joined us as she has had an exhausting week of schooling.

Exciting right?

Maybe it’s not the excitement I remember from my youth, but it really is life at its best.  Our week Monday through Friday is full of craziness.  We have work, school, sports, dance, after-school events, appointments, to-do lists, etc.  The days are so chaotic that family time is hard to come by.  Asking about everyone’s day becomes habit – even though we really DO want to know – and the answers seem to always be the same.  But when Friday hits, a sense of relief flows over us and the questions don’t even have to be asked… we watch our kids live without school night deadlines and we just enjoy each other – even if we are enjoying it with our eyes closed.

True, Friday nights aren’t what they used to be – and I am so very thankful for that.

(Disclaimer: I still live in a small Texas town, so Friday nights do sometimes still consist of Football.)



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What will be left?

I have been doing a lot of writing lately – obviously not on this blog, but I promise, there is a lot of writing going on.  As I was gathering and organizing some of my old blog posts, I came across something I did for one of my college classes last year and I HAD to post something here for y’all.

A few years back, Zak and I were preparing to go on a trip – and I tend to get very emotional about my children before I travel without them.  My mind will race and I think about all they will go through if something were to happen to one (or both!) of us.  What will they be left with?

When I ask that question, I don’t mean money or possessions, although I do believe that is crucial.  Like Dave Ramsey says, “It’s selfish not to have a will for your loved ones.”

When I ask “What will they be left with?” I mean, what will they remember about us?  How did we make them feel?  Did they know how very much they were loved?  Will they go through life knowing that someone believed that they could do amazing things?

And, because I am a writer, you know what I did when those thoughts took over brain?  That’s right, I wrote each of them a letter.  I didn’t just say “I love you so much and I will miss you while we are gone.”  No.  I got specific…

I told them that they have made my life exceptional – that because of them, I am a better person.  I told them that they can do amazing things in their lifetime – that they have more potential and talent in their little finger than I could have ever dreamed to have for myself…

I told them that they are beautiful, but that the kindness and compassion they have for others will be where their real beauty shines.


(The picture is a real letter – but not to my children.)

I told them to continue relying on God throughout their lives.  To pray.  To ask for forgiveness and to offer grace and forgiveness to others.

These are just some of the things I want my children to remember during their journey on this earth.  They may read these things in books or hear them in a generalized way on a TV show, but I needed them to hear it from me.

So, the question for all of us becomes this… What are we leaving our loved ones with when its our time to go?  Will they know how we felt about them?  Have we written them down so that they can be a life-long reminder – a treasure they keep close to their hearts for as long as they live?

How will our words change them?  What about our LACK of words?

Words are powerful.  Not only do we need to use them wisely, but we need to USE THEM.

~ Roxanne


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5 Things to Remember When Comparing

I was having a conversation with some friends the other day and we started talking about some of the insecurities we have about ourselves.  We discussed how we compare ourselves and we even opened up about how intimidated we were by each other before we were friends!

I have written and spoken about comparison – especially with women – many times over the years.  It makes my heart ache to think how many times we miss out on special friendships because we have preconceived ideas about what someone else is like or that we let our own insecurities get in our way.

I am thankful that as I have gotten older, I try to get to know someone before I make unfair judgments about what they are like.  I am thankful that I have friends who do the same with me… that even though they had their own perceptions of who I was before they met me (good and bad), they gave me a chance and we are all blessed more by the friendships we have built.

So, here are some things to remember when you start playing the comparison game…

  1. We are all very different ON PURPOSE.  If we were all the same, life would get pretty darn boring.  We have different bodies, different passions, different ways of parenting, different political views.  God made us different for a reason and we should embrace it.
  2. Let’s get to know someone’s heart and circumstances before we judge unfairly.  When we see someone going through a really hard time – even if it looks like it is from their own doing – we need to be more empathetic and realize that there is probably a lot more to the story than we know.
  3. God didn’t ask you to be someone else or live out their assignment.  We each have our own calling – we have our own gifts and talents.  We so often think that because our friend is doing something, we should do it, too; but this isn’t always the case and it could end up hurting us more than it helps.                            comparison
  4. Speak life into someone!  When you see something you like about someone – whether it’s that they are dressed cute, speak eloquently, sing beautifully, have great hair, nice shoes, WHATEVER – tell them!  Start telling people what you like or love about them!  How many times have you thought something nice about someone and they are RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU, but you never say it out loud?  I’ve done it many times!  There is great power in a compliment, y’all – it could completely change someone’s outlook on their day.  Small things can be so huge – and it will come back to you two-fold.  🙂
  5. That girl you see in the mirror every day is greatly loved.  There are things about you that someone else thinks are amazing.  You will never know all the wonderful things your friends, family, and even strangers like about you, but know that someone else wants something you have or wants to be more like you in some way.  Not only that, but you are loved by the God who made the heavens and earth – He thought the world needed YOU.


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